[Backport 1.3] Fix write retries, Pipe resource cleanup, and snapshot recovery

[Caideyipi]

Description

Backport of #18180 (8b60437) to dev/1.3.

This adapts the fixes that apply to the 1.3 codebase:

• rebuild ConfigNode Pipe listener references and replace stale snapshot-derived state;
• clean up generated Pipe/subscription TsFiles and async transfer resources on failures;
• reset listening queues safely during snapshot deserialization;
• preserve maximum recovered flush times, clear last-flush memory accounting, and report rejected tablet ranges;
• roll back aligned-row memory accounting when the following non-aligned reservation fails.

The 2.x-only table-model Pipe builders and consensus-subscription frontier/commit-progress implementation are not present on dev/1.3, so those parts of the original commit are intentionally omitted.

Verification

• mvn spotless:apply -pl iotdb-core/node-commons,iotdb-core/datanode,iotdb-core/confignode
• mvn -o -nsu -Ddevelocity.off=true test-compile -DskipTests -pl iotdb-core/node-commons,iotdb-core/datanode,iotdb-core/confignode
• Targeted tests for:
  • ConcurrentIterableLinkedQueueTest
  • AbstractPipeListeningQueueTest
  • PipeTransferTsFileHandlerCleanupTest
  • LastFlushTimeMapTest
  • SubscriptionPipeTsFileEventBatchCleanupTest
  • PipeConfigRegionListenerSnapshotTest
  • QuotaInfoTest
  • TemplatePreSetTableTest
  • TemplateTableTest